Later on I did in fact order wood for the winter and go out and buy the children new winter coats, but as I drove to school that afternoon something else opened up in my mind. On the roadside a flower was bobbing in the afternoon breeze. I remembered something. Even though we humans may do our best to destroy all that is good and beautiful, eventually the earth will reclaim its power - flowers will bloom, plants will grow, life will go on - even without us.
With that tiny spark of hope in my heart I gathered my children up and took them home. I sat them down and talked about the events of the day as best I could. They had heard some rumours at school but weren't clear where in the world it had taken place.
I knew that the one thing I could have some influence on was the preservation of their spirit, of their tender hearts, of their vulnerability. So I explained that everyone involved in the events that day, including the people who flew the planes, who created the plan, needed our help. That we could light a candle and send love to everyone.
If every 8 year old in the world is taught meditation, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation. Dalai LamaThe older children were annoyed that I didn't allow them to watch the television, feeling that they were less informed than their friends, but I let them read the papers and we talked about events, fears and concerns with openness and honesty. I knew that if their minds became saturated with the frightening images being shown on television, and listened to the endless fear-based reporting, it would eat into their consciousness and pollute their minds before they had developed appropriate filters. We wouldn't expose our children to germs, chemicals, poisons or dangerous animals - I didn't want to over-expose them to the media's bombardment.
We can teach our children how, even though we may be fearful, angry, hurt and upset, to focus on loving, compassionate thoughts.
In Newport, Connecticut somebody's child shot everyone's child. Its time to move beyond judgment and head for Love. Its the only thing that will keep us all safe.