I’m doing a great deal of research and preparation, learning amazing things about microbes, compost and worms to help me improve the condition of the heavy clay soil. I’m learning what grows well in this environment, the native species, the bee-friendly plants and discovering the history of the land. With the help of a friend and a great book, I’m planning the future of my garden as I slowly tame the overgrowth and create a manageable wildness.
I love a good metaphor and have lots of time for reflection whilst gardening – so the relationship as a garden seems a natural move. Rather like a garden, if you neglect your relationship and expect it to grow without any attention, the likelihood is that the strongest elements will take over – and these can easily become become criticism, self-consciousness, disinterest, indifference, hurt and resentment.
A beautiful and sustainable relationship needs the tender plants of forgiveness, compassion, understanding and patience. These are vulnerable and easily damaged, the also require care, attention and commitment to help them get established.
Don't be afraid to make your mark, to manifest your vision. Think about the long term; when you get your planting right and work on creating the best conditions for growth, your relationship will provide a natural environment for love to flourish - and benefit not just you but everyone around you and generations to follow.